Visiting friends is one of the motifs of this summer. I have no real timelines besides the rallies,
so I sort of drift from one friend to another.
My first stop was at some friends from TX that we met while
Geocaching. They moved to the amusing and
funky town of Fairplay, CO, to a nice house with
a spectacular view of South
Park, the wide grassy
basin between the mountains. First order
of business was their 11 year old son’s basket ball game. The ageless smell of
sweaty sneakers, encouraging shouts, and the egalitarian inclusion of all and
any that want to play. There are so few
students that boys and girls play together, and the enthusiasm for fun clearly outstrips
the need to be the winners.
Then, it is her last belly dancing class.
I’ve always wanted to learn this, probably
for the outfit more than anything: tons of jewelry, flowers in the hair and the
low riding skirt with jingling coins. Z
comes out with a turban, her black hair braided with silver, flash and glitz
everywhere, and her coin belt buzzes with each step. Z is more fun than I can explain. She is exotically beautiful, and well padded,
and moves through life with huge energy and amusement, talking a blue streak in
her deep voice, and laughing at the absurdities of the world. She incites me to be out of control, we are a
dangerous pair.
I bravely (foolishly?) get up and start learning to belly
dance, in my Capri pants and t-shirt,
while the 8 others do their moves. Eastern
music fills the simple hall of an old church in Alma CO; at 10,000 feet it
boasts the highest bar in the US. We are soon getting a workout. In my old life, I would never have just
joined in like that, but I enjoyed every minute. After that, still in full regalia, we head
for the bar, where everyone knows everyone, children sit at the bar with sodas,
and our outfits are only a mild and short lived curiosity. After much laughter and carrying on, Z decides
to visit the recently reopened Haunted Hotel.
Built during the mining heydays, it is a huge shingle block,
with great beams in the foyer and massive false columns in the bar. There are so many ghosts, it seems, that the
new owner has had it cleansed. Well, except for the bar. The ghost buster woman
walked in there and saw so many spirits having spirits that she nearly gave
up. Only a few rooms are really ready
for occupancy, they have a new chef from New
Orleans, and it’s all very hopeful. Z, still dressed in her finery and I appear at
the bar, and the 6-8 people there turn and see us. Astonishment. Is Z the ghost of some long ago
exotic miner concubine? Z rolls out the
laughs and the fun and they relax, sort of.
We are so clearly fearless and rowdy that it is a little hard for them
to know what to think. Then we go off
hunting ghosts, deep in the basement, dirt floors, a century of junk, with only
one tiny LED to see by. Z is hoping to
“see” something, but between my lack of belief and her jangly coin belt, no spirits
appear. Then we go upstairs and explore, one bedroom belonged to a famous lady
of the night, her nude portrait and her “certificate” are on display in the
lobby. The story is that if you make
love in that room, her ghost, incensed, will begin throwing things around the
room. But we are on a noisy roll and the
spirits stay hidden.
Next day, I head for one of my oldest friends. Penny and I attended the same kindergarten,
but only got to know each other in the 7th grade at Concord Academy, a private girl’s school. She and her husband have been living out here
in CO for many years tucked up in the grassy parks of the Front
Range near Evergreen. She
has horses, which I visit with and muck out, and brush. There is no better
creature on earth.
Penny and I steep ourselves like two tea bags in the luxury
of catching up and examining our lives with someone who knows us so well, there
is nothing to explain. We compare living
out west, with our shared past of staid New England
upbringing, pour over our more recent lives and troubles and joys.
Her house has two dogs, two cats besides the 4 horses, and
just outside across a little creek a family of coyotes is growing up. Since
Pepe is deaf and too friendly, I have to keep her close. One of the adults is
crippled enough to be looking for easy pickings. The magpies and the crows are merciless, diving
at the coyotes and making a huge racket, and we often see the adults walking in
the meadows boldly. Two adolescent elk
with velvet antlers blunder through the fences on their way up higher, and the
neighbors all have tons of horses too.
Her daughter shows reining horses, and we drove down to Denver to watch. Reining
is like dressage for western style riders: there are 11 different patterns of
large and small circles, spins, and sliding halts. The riders are judged on the exactness and
correctness of each move. For a parent anxiously hoping the child does well it
is nerve wracking, but the huge arena is nearly empty, and the classes are very
small. Since the contestants go
individually, it can take a long time for a class, and unless you are really up
on the details, it is pretty boring.
Penny’s daughter has had a difficult time finding her way to adulthood,
it’s not an easy path for anyone, and she has had some additional stumbling
blocks to over come. She rides extremely well, and has a stunning and clever
black horse and finishes second after a ride off, to a professional
trainer. My daughter and I did horse showing
together for a long time, and it was interesting to revisit the nerves and drama
of young females struggling in this high powered competitive world. When you are competing on a horse, you have
to keep your own nerves under control or the horse will pick up on your fears
and become afraid (what saber tooth tiger, where?). Sports of any type are terrific for kids if
well managed, and for girls the horse world is a great emotional arena to learn
in.
The coyote family, tired of our constant spying, has moved
the pups, and Penny and I have sorted through many things. We will probably regroup at Ellen’s ranch in Montana later in the
summer, the three “old bags” as we called ourselves back in our teenage years.
It is interesting to revisit these bits of my past, and nice
to see that much of it has not changed, even though it is a long time since I
did basketball or horse shows with my kids.
I also got a taste of two radically different communities.
Fairplay has retained a lot of the rowdy, anything goes flavor of its mining
days, it reminds me a lot of Wales,
the small MA town where I spend much of my adult life. Short on money, not a fertile place for
pretensions, and long on supporting children and having fun. Evergreen is the high priced spread, where
ranchettes have grown up on the old high mountain pasture ranches. It is
spectacular, as is a lot of CO, and has Denver
at its feet for work.
Next stop is an Airstream Rally, in Howard,
CO with some of the Denver unit folks, many of whom I know from
past rallies.
The theme is pirates, and
although few of the others dress up, you can be confident that I was decked out
in my buccaneerish finery, slinging Arrgg’s with the best of them. We had a pirate joke telling contest, which I
won and other fun stuff, and I made some new friends among the Airstream
crowd. I returned from the rally with
Patti and Tom, old Airstream friends from way back, and am parked in the street
in front of their house in Lafayette,
CO. We just had Chinese take out, and I’m snug in
my trailer in the chilly rainy evening.